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Hey I'm new here!! :3

For context, I'm pre-HRT but have appointments coming up.

I'm curious. What do you do when you get pangs of denial? I have written dowm a list of logical reasons of why I'm a tgirl. But that doesn't change the fact that sometimes I feel like I'm in denial of something I logically know myself to be.

Thanks, have a nice day!!

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[โ€“] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 24 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

So, you've undergone a lifetime of exposure to transphobia that makes it really hard to explore and accept who you are. It makes it hard to even understand who you are.

So what you can do, is let yourself accept that you don't have to have all of the answers, you don't have to have 100% certainty to explore. What you need to do isn't to gatekeep yourself behind having all the answers, but rather, give yourself permission to explore what works for you, what fits, what doesn't fit, and ultimately, find the things that give you the answers!

tl;dr - You don't need all of the answers to start exploring. You can start exploring to find the answers

Whatt how'd you know about the transphobia? :0 TYSM!! This makes a lot of sense <3