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i only feel sexual attraction towards my partners, and they have to be sexual first. if they’re not sexual people, i only feel romance to them and no sexual feelings. i frankly don’t wanna bang anyone and have never felt like actually doing so until i met my partner, and even then, it’s more out of curiosity and romantic sparks than anything else (i’m super romantic so i’m not aromantic).

i only feel sexual feelings under certain circumstances, and even then, i use it to make myself happy and not really wanting to have sex with someone.

i am sure i feel sexual attraction, like probably towards my partner, but i’d say less so than most people do, perhaps???

i’m demisexual for now which is on the ace spectrum.

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[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 0 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

otherwise known as a normal person.

the vast a majority of folks only have sex in relationships. despite what popular media tells you.

[–] FearMeAndDecay@literature.cafe 0 points 2 days ago (1 children)

The difference is that many people feel sexual attraction towards potentially anyone whereas demisexuals only potentially feel sexual attraction to people they’ve already formed a close bond with. It’s not about actually having sex with people, it’s about the sexual attraction or lack thereof

I’m ace and I was always confused about why people panic around hot people. I get panicking around someone new, but their hotness never plays into it. It was only until I learned about asexuality and learned that most people have a physical reaction to people they find physically/sexually attractive (whether that be increased heart rate, arousal, etc.) I’ve simply never experienced that. Demisexuals are similar in that they don’t deal with that for strangers but if they have a strong emotional connection with someone then they may start to feel sexual attraction

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 0 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

Yes, you are ace. So you are making up a false narrative about how other people work, that isn't true.

Very few people are like that. Most people are not attracted to most people. Most people are not attracted to others solely based on looks either. There is also a difference in recognizing someone's beauty, and being attracted to them.

And I'm talking real world attraction, not sexual fantasizing.

[–] FearMeAndDecay@literature.cafe 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I didn’t say they’re attracted to most people they meet, I said that they potentially could feel sexual attraction. As in, it’s not unusual for them to feel sexual attraction towards a complete stranger

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

anyone can be potentially attracted to anyone in the right circumstances...