I think everyone's taking this to always be political. It's not always - sometimes it's a personality clash - and I do think our generation can be too quick to cut someone off. But then again, the more you speak to older people the more you realise most families have some major rift in them caused by similar circumstances, and have done going back decades and decades.

I just think we talk a big game about community, but at the same time see our relationships as sort of net positive/negatives. I think the reality is that some people you are bound to clash with, and we need to practice just having slightly more distant relationships rather than cutting someone off - which perhaps doesn't really benefit everyone.

I don't know, personal issue for me, my sister cut my mother off, and while my mum was at points very difficult, they both clearly think about each other all the time. My mum cant get over it, and my sister constantly acts like shes over it but clearly carries a lot of emotion and trauma around the topic. I think they'd both be better off if they just stayed civil. Practice the short interaction rule. I know that I can't spend more than a couple of nights around my mum before I can't really take it anymore, and for my sister it would be okay if that were just a few hours over lunch.

Oh well.