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Looking for advice: toddler is hurting her Grandma (thelemmy.club)

submitted 7 hours ago by philanthropicoctopus@thelemmy.club to c/parenting@lemmy.world

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Hi everyone

Proud girldad of a beautiful 1 year old here. Life is good and I now love being a father.

We are just having one problem. She attacks her Grandma and leaves nasty scratches on her face. We aren't sure how to proceed.

What we do currently is if she attacks, we firmly say "no, we don't treat grandma like that" and then encourage gentle touch. It's not working.

We are firmly against physical discipline, we tried time out once but she went mental, possibly she's too young for time out.

Can you tell we're first time parents? Haha

Any advice would be appreciated

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[–] hitmyspot@aussie.zone 7 points 6 hours ago

What do you mean by attack? Hair pulling, exploring with fingers etc is all normal. Generally, a negative outcome lets her know she’s not allowed to do something. It can take time.

I agree with the other poster. Meltdowns should not be given into. I also wouldn’t describe them as going mental. Remember, the words you use are now being soaked in.

Time out I appropriate, but keep the, short and try a time in type, where you sit with her somewhere quiet without distraction. We use a naughty step still for older kids. The naughty step is not for naughty kids, but to discuss naughty actions, or red choices.

Using spanking or physical discipline is never warranted, so it’s worrying that it’s your first instinct for discipline. I think youll need to look at how else you can discipline. Kids crave uniformity and boundaries. Set them and keep them.