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Flirting (lemmy.ml)
submitted 16 hours ago by electric_nan@lemmy.ml to c/askchapo@hexbear.net
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Hi friends. Is it fucked up to flirt with someone with no intention of taking it further? I'm in a long-term monogamous relationship. Sometimes I crave a little validation from strangers. I'm not going to cheat on my partner, but I do have a need to feel desirable to others. I don't feel like a bit of flirting is a betrayal of my relationship, but I'm less confident about how other people feel. Like, I don't want to waste someone else's time, but I guess maybe I am leading people on a bit if I chat with them without mentioning my partner.

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[–] Arahnya@hexbear.net 1 points 6 hours ago

unfortunately, flirting with your friends is not always possible either, and in some cases can lead to the same result, even if you thought you had an understanding.

Ultimately, looking inside yourself for the reasons you want attention, and addressing those is more fulfilling than doing this in my opinion.