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Just brainstorming on what I would do with absolute power, and one of the first things i would get to work on (after climate change, eradicating the idea of wealth, and installing global supply lines to freely ship food everywhere) is, what in my mind, the crux of todays issues. As far as i can see, every single issue through every level of our society is caused by or aggravated by the loneliness epidemic (lets discuss that in the comments) As such, ive spent a lot of time studying its effects, causes, and potential solutions. As far as the mens side goes, from personal experiance, I think there are two major issues.

  1. The future we were promised, the life our parents had, and even our basic dignities are being stripped away by the declining economic state. Not much the ladies can do about this one.

  2. Due to #1, a feeling of "not being good enough" causes us to become reclusive until we feel we have achieved some level of success. That never happens, so that creates mental issues that lead to our problems.

Said mental issues include, but are not limited to: decline in ability to socialize. Personally(i am autistic) i feel that humans have a lot of customs that I just dont understand. I didnt "get" kissing until i experianced it, and even then its not really the kissing i enjoy so much as the person wanting to kiss me. I still dont understand sexting or role play. But this is far from limited to sexuality. Ive largely been surrounded by men since my depression hit, and now I get this indescribable anxiety around women that ive never had before. I dont feel that it should hinder me, im used to anxiety and can operate under its influence. But the fact that its noticable is an issue, because its my understanding that people in general are atteacted to confidence. Wouldnt it be nice if I had some sort of social program i could go to to just be around/engage with women? Not to flirt or find partners, but to just reacclimate myself to being around potential partners. I cant train men on how women want to be treated, and I wouldnt even want to tell men how women should be treated seeing as im not a woman.

So that leads us into the actual question: would you be willing to take a job where you pretty much just train men on how to act around/ treat women? I'm... hopefully fine enough, not really even looking to date anymore. But I do know a lot of men, and some of them are definitely way worse off than i am. Some of the men are like actual dogs, 0 self control around women. My hypothesis is that no woman has ever overcome their repulsion long enough to explain how they should change their behavior.

To be clear, im not blaming women for any of this. Its typically not safe to correct mens behavior. Thats why i think this sort of thing should exist, a place where women can go to actually speak their mind and directly confront problematic behavior in a safe and controlled environment. Things like consent should be thouroughly explained and put into practice. Again, not talking sex. This would be stuff like spending an hour listening to women speak their mind and taking questions, then maybe an hour of dancing lessons. An hour of something similar to speed dating where you swap partners every 15 minutes or so and just talk. Whatever catches your interest. There should probably be some physical contact, humans learn a lot through contact. Again, because every time I bring up stuff like this I get called a pervert and dismissed, I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT SEXUAL CONTACT. This is not "what if your school was softcore porn". This is literal school, back when they had actual sex education in classes.

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[โ€“] venusaur@lemmy.world 2 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago)

This would hopefully be a compliment to something that addresses the root of the problem more like mandatory parenting and child psychology classes, for everybody.

Also, I think you would get more benefit from these types of behavior training classes if they were more general empathy classes. Not just how to treat women. How to treat children, for example. How to treat homeless people. How to treat other men.

This would probably create something like Pickup Artists.