Just brainstorming on what I would do with absolute power, and one of the first things i would get to work on (after climate change, eradicating the idea of wealth, and installing global supply lines to freely ship food everywhere) is, what in my mind, the crux of todays issues. As far as i can see, every single issue through every level of our society is caused by or aggravated by the loneliness epidemic (lets discuss that in the comments) As such, ive spent a lot of time studying its effects, causes, and potential solutions. As far as the mens side goes, from personal experiance, I think there are two major issues.
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The future we were promised, the life our parents had, and even our basic dignities are being stripped away by the declining economic state. Not much the ladies can do about this one.
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Due to #1, a feeling of "not being good enough" causes us to become reclusive until we feel we have achieved some level of success. That never happens, so that creates mental issues that lead to our problems.
Said mental issues include, but are not limited to: decline in ability to socialize. Personally(i am autistic) i feel that humans have a lot of customs that I just dont understand. I didnt "get" kissing until i experianced it, and even then its not really the kissing i enjoy so much as the person wanting to kiss me. I still dont understand sexting or role play. But this is far from limited to sexuality. Ive largely been surrounded by men since my depression hit, and now I get this indescribable anxiety around women that ive never had before. I dont feel that it should hinder me, im used to anxiety and can operate under its influence. But the fact that its noticable is an issue, because its my understanding that people in general are atteacted to confidence. Wouldnt it be nice if I had some sort of social program i could go to to just be around/engage with women? Not to flirt or find partners, but to just reacclimate myself to being around potential partners. I cant train men on how women want to be treated, and I wouldnt even want to tell men how women should be treated seeing as im not a woman.
So that leads us into the actual question: would you be willing to take a job where you pretty much just train men on how to act around/ treat women? I'm... hopefully fine enough, not really even looking to date anymore. But I do know a lot of men, and some of them are definitely way worse off than i am. Some of the men are like actual dogs, 0 self control around women. My hypothesis is that no woman has ever overcome their repulsion long enough to explain how they should change their behavior.
To be clear, im not blaming women for any of this. Its typically not safe to correct mens behavior. Thats why i think this sort of thing should exist, a place where women can go to actually speak their mind and directly confront problematic behavior in a safe and controlled environment. Things like consent should be thouroughly explained and put into practice. Again, not talking sex. This would be stuff like spending an hour listening to women speak their mind and taking questions, then maybe an hour of dancing lessons. An hour of something similar to speed dating where you swap partners every 15 minutes or so and just talk. Whatever catches your interest. There should probably be some physical contact, humans learn a lot through contact. Again, because every time I bring up stuff like this I get called a pervert and dismissed, I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT SEXUAL CONTACT. This is not "what if your school was softcore porn". This is literal school, back when they had actual sex education in classes.
Someone who thinks!
Slightly-incorrect-framing, but you are onto something..
Having women train males in social-process-competence ( & therefore in social-process-confidence ) would be good/useful.
( I'm an old male mind, btw, not a wymmin, obviously : )
The problem's more-fundamental than social-behavior, though:
People can be in the mere-animal stages-of-unconscious-mind-development, in which case unconsciousness, identity, hormones, & ego rule the whole world,
XOR people can be in self-conquering condition.
Civilization has eradicated that from our lives.
Tribal-villages used to allow males to measure themselves against the forces-of-nature until self-conquering was earned ( a kind of training which had a terrible slaughter-rate, for the number of successes ).
When we switched to feudalism, & industry-feudalism/oligarchy, we never put a proper growing-up-means for the more-testosterone-driven humans, so we broke self-conquering, leaving toxic-masculinity to fester..
It isn't domineering-others, it is conquering-one's-self, that is the ultimate Male condition, but the whole world ignores that, because the systems & processes in-place eradicate the potential from all the lives that the systems/processes can.
There was an article in Reader's Digest, possibly last-century, & a principal at a school had failed, & failed, & failed, to communicate to parents how different the learning-process NEEDS to be, for the yin ( girls, in his mind: I'm the one who threw-away the sex/gender, leaving only the yin/yang ), vs the yang.
Finally he knew:
He got the kids divided in the gym, girls on 1 side, boys on the other, & the parents up in the bleachers.
He asked the kids: "Who of you would rather learn in a quiet library?"
Nearly-all girls, few boys, hands went up.
"Who of you would rather learn in a boisterous classroom?"
Nearly-all boys, few girls, hands went up.
NOW the parents understood!!
The process required for growing-up boys is pushier than the process required for growing-up girls!!
There's a book ( glanced into the sample of it ) called "Balls: It Takes Some To Grow Some", written by a trans-man, iirc..
It's on the nature of male-culture..
The Problem, is that the "education" we've established on all kids DOESN'T respect yin-vs-yang nature, OR different-learning-speeds-in-different-subjects, OR truth, not institutional-authority, is THE decider of what is right ( teachers can be wrong ), OR correcting-the-learning-materials-when-they're-wrong, etc..
The WHOLE THING is "educating" our lives into defectiveness, instead of autonomy, competence, capability, & understanding.
& when you begin with that bedrock .. what kind of "masculinity" is going to grow??
Certainly-not the right kind, eh?
The more intellectually-pushy a learner is, the more-intellectually-pushy the training needs to be.
The more physically-pushy a learner is, the more-physically-pushy the training needs to be.
Etc.
With the goal being self-conquering, which isn't even on humankind's map, at the moment.
That social-process-training would do actual ( needed! ) good for many men, due to the wrong-education they were subjected-to is true.
But correcting-the-problem required re-engineering "education" into being growing lives, not breaking them for institutional-authority's-comfort, as John Taylor Gatto, NY State Teacher of the Year Award winner, learned.
( he discovered, after trashing his teaching-career by telling the truth, in the research he did later, that it was the coal industry who had paid for the education-establishment, so as to prevent any more Lincoln or Franklin types from occurring, & it worked )
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Taylor_Gatto#Main_thesis
John Taylor Gatto is the one who explained that a VALID ( & knowing they are valid ) child isn't manipulateable-by-the-institution the way the institution requires, for its status, among institutions, to be produced..
but a broken child, dependent on provisionally-bestowed-by-the-institution "approval", IS manipulateable.
THAT cracked-open much of middle-class-institution/gov't-institution bullying, for me ( gov't towns are worst for that ).
Social-competence, with associated social-confidence, is required, & your idea is right in correcting that problem..
but that problem isn't the fundamental one.
( also, broken-parenting due to parents not having livingwage, thereby economically enforcing attachment-disorder, is another fundamental-cause of the problems our current world is embodying )
You wanted males NOT contributing in the discussion, so downvote me, all, but the points stand on their-own, because they test to be true, & in my values, truth has rights, including the right-to-be-seen/heard.
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