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How did you lose feelings for the more "important"/"worse" ex-crushes of your life? (piefed.blahaj.zone)

submitted 17 hours ago by atheqtpie@piefed.blahaj.zone to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I mean, crushes that you saw all the time and you were close with, and ones that weren't good people. My ex-crush, this Polish girl I nickname "Helen" on here, turned out to be a Christian with internalized homophobia and was an ableist asshole who hated special education students and made fun of me behind my back.

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[–] pinball_wizard@lemmy.zip 1 points 15 hours ago

I never really fully stopped caring for them, but I don't want to build my life with them.

An unexpected side effect is that I felt exultant when they found someone to build their life with. I sleep better knowing they are cared for.

Anytime I look back and think "what if", I realize it would have been bad. We're both better off separate.

And it hurt to be near each-other, so we don't stay in close contact.

But none of that invaldiates all the wonderful things we know about each-other, better than most people do.

And it doesn't stop us from celebrating each-others victories from a distance.