My parents came to visit over the weekend, which the kids love. But there's a bit of tension between my girlfriend and my parents. Generally its my parents asking why the place is a mess and why nothing is being done about it and my girlfriend doesn't have an answer because she can't get her mother into gear to chuck anything out.

I feel it manifests with my girlfriend being really on edge, and everything that goes wrong is my fault one way or another. Like I ordered dinner for us, being the immediate family and my parents, and my girlfriend's mother got upset I didn't include her and the rest of my girlfriend's family that live with us. They are the three fussiest eaters I've ever met, don't like to try anything new, and never eat with us anyway. I didn't assume shit when I didn't order for them, I worked off years of living with them that they wouldn't be interested in food from a Vietnamese noodle place they've never eaten from before. They literally didn't eat pizza with us the night before.

My girlfriend finds it stressful when my parents are down, she should realise I'm also stuck in the middle of them and her whenever they visit as well.