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Lemmings who have stayed close enough friends with their ex to hang out with them and their new partners, is it awkward? What about Lemmings that hang out with their partner and their partner's ex? (lemmy.world)

submitted 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago) by TheReanuKeeves@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

It's only awkward if you let it be. I have a very good friend who is an ex because they wanted to move to another continent and I didn't. Foolish in hindsight but whatever. By total circumstance, I'm now dating one of their ex's. That pairing split because of different emotional desires. We all hang out when we're in the same country, hell, the four of us (our shared ex married after moving) are going to the sauna together in a month or so.

It's all very normal as long as you let it be.

[–] TheReanuKeeves@lemmy.world 3 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

That is wild. Cool that you guys all get along but I think that's a very rare situation

[–] TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 18 hours ago

The odd circumstances aren't really relevant, though I admit they're a bit odd.

If you break up on good terms, I think it's healthy to stay friends. This person has valuable insight to who you were at a certain part of your life and unique perspectives.

You gotta be able to be respectful, though, both you and your ex. Don't weaponize the intimate knowledge you have with each other to score points with their friends.