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I agree it could be worded more clearly. Yet for everyone who has lived with this it is clear.

Certainly... but for people who are vulnerable in many other ways, it may paint a rushed mom or a worried dad as abusive when they are not. This is not posted in an "abusive household" community where the context is implied.

You would say ‘just avoid your parents when they are drunk’

I would NOT say that.

Overall you are arguing the wrong things with me. I understood the post and agree that catering to abusive parent's emotions creates bad emotional responses... my point is that the post does not, in anyway, make it clear this is an emotionally abusive household (they almost make a point not to) and then paint completely normal empathetic reactions as defense/survival mechanisms.

A clear post would not use the vague wording "someone's mood changes the atmosphere". If I am your best friend, my dog just died but I still make an effort to go to your birthday party because you are my best friend. My mood is not quite right and you, being my best friend, notice, ask me about it and I cry telling you "Fluffy" just died. My sad mood will absolutely (if temporarily) kill the atmosphere of your party... I guess I am an abusive friend for trying to not bail on your birthday and you are somehow on survival mode because you had empathy for me?

I am using this example "on the other edge" of the spectrum just to show how poorly written the post was and how it can easily fit the most benign scenario

The text is very clear for those who have experienced that. It’s very hard to fathom for those who haven’t, and those are blessed for it.

And this is why I care... not everyone is super stable/smart/objective/capable of self reflection... this is the irresponsible shit going online that pushes those people the wrong way