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I'm don't think "you'll settle for whoever's around" is a compelling argument.
Furthermore, there are few places where it's actually like a rom-com and the waitress sets you up. There can't be a lot of people in that situation because then there wouldn't be so few people that they can be matched up. Most people live in cities or suburban wastelands.
"you'll settle for whoever's around" is a compelling argument - if whoever is around happens to be good enough. Sometimes she is (I'm assuming she for discussion) good enough and so it doesn't matter. Also we have established living in the sticks is important (otherwise move to the city), and so you need to settle for someone who is willing to live in the sticks - that someone is likely already living in the sticks. Beware, I know more than one person who was burned on a relationship where she (in the cases I personally know it was she, but no reason it couldn't be he) was excited to move to the sticks - until she discovered how far it was to everything she liked about the city and the relationship wasn't worth that cost to her.
There are few places where the waitress sets you up. However that is more likely to happen in a rural area: everyone knows everyone, and they "want" to help each other. In cities everyone knows you also know people they don't and so they are somewhat less likely to do this (it still happens)
Bit of a tautology there. My point is if there's only 1 person of your age/gender(s) then it's longer odds they're going to be a good match. Sure, they might be "good enough" but wouldn't you rather have "great"?
If you get too picky you will never find anyone. Loneliness can be worse than setteling for good enough. There is of course too bad, and this is all personal, but there are too many different things to look at to demand perfection in more than a couple places. Which things you demand is up to you of cousre.
Sure, being too picky can lead to loneliness. But that's kind of off topic from "you'll have more rolls of the dice in a place with more people", which was my earlier argument.
I wouldn't want to settle for someone with no shared interests and a not-my-type body just because they're here. Everyone involved deserves better.