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What were the first outfits/pieces of clothing you got to feel more aligned with your gender? (piefed.social)

submitted 3 days ago by adhd_traco@piefed.social to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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Hi!

As the title says, please, as I'm looking for some inspiration :)

I've been looking to get some clothes for a while, but it's a bit tricky. Tyrannical country, so I can't try them on, and in most places I won't be able to return them if they don't fit/I don't like them. So I wanna be a bit careful about what I buy.

I took some of my measurements of hips, waist and bust and hope that's enough. But what to buy if I can't buy it all? 🤑

Underwear shouldn't be an issue, but the rest? Blazer? Blouse? Or a summer dress? I don't even know much about women's clothes even though I bought full outfits of my choice twice before (before realising my gender identity).

On the one hand, I feel it is my civic duty to get thigh-highs and that similar fabric to cover the the hands/arms, with a mini skirt and short top, taking a picture of my libreboot thinkpad with neofetch running. 😅

I also think what that some of what I'll enjoy myself in now will change when/if I transition more, and vice versa. So I don't know. Everything is on the table, but mostly I want something badass. :)

Thanks for reading and any help :)

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[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 3 days ago (1 children)

probably the first piece was a purse I bought myself as a teenager from a festival (it was hand-made by a local).

Then it was the hand-me-down jeans from my mom that fit me better than men's jeans and felt nicer to wear.

Then when I was on my own, it was skirts I bought from a department store.

Then I repressed for over a decade and during that time I had a few drab skirts and a couple simple, drab dresses that I exclusively wore at home because it made me feel better inexplicably.

Then when I transitioned, it was all the clothes: skirts, blouses, dresses (oh so many dresses: lemon dresses, long sleeveless dresses that combine with wraps well, colorful summer flowy dresses with straps, a strapless dress that felt perfect for a beach, etc.), wraps of various kinds (my favorite were soft cotton lounge wraps), and then a few sweaters for colder weather (turtle necks looked awful when I started HRT because my neck was so fat, but a few years in I think they look OK on me now, at least not horrible).

I do have a single blazer, I wore it to a party recently with a nice red blouse and plaid above-the-knee skirt and I think it went well?

In general a blazer (esp. with slacks) can come across as masculine, so do with that what you will.

Shoes are also a struggle, but my feet really changed with HRT and now I fit women's sizes much better.

[–] adhd_traco@piefed.social 9 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Shoes are also a struggle, but my feet really changed with HRT and now I fit women’s sizes much better.

That's really interesting. I had to go to a special store that made women's shoes in sizes most stores don't.

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

yes, I go to Torrid to find shoes, they specialize in making shoes for pregnant and "plus-sized" women. My feet tend to be very wide, so their shoes tend to fit me better because they're made to be relatively wide and flexible.

but I even managed to go ice skating and wore women's ice skates rentals without issue, which I didn't think would ever work