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Plenty of men can deal with this, and plenty of women can't. It's not helpful to see this as a gender thing, you'll only feel more alienated. You might want to seek out some new social connections?
Ignoring strong correlations because “not all” is less helpful.
Most men, in western society, have issues with expressing emotions other than anger. I’m certain I could find studies as proof, but don’t we all already know this to be true?
We do. Isn't there currently an epidemic of men having to deal with a slew of mental health issues, not knowing what to do/how to deal with it?
Yeah. That.
You missed my point. I'm ignoring nothing, I'm suggesting OP seek out men who will be supportive, because they're not hard to find.
I'm certain I could find studies as proof, but don't we all already know this to be true?
Yeah. Provide studies.
Here’s one that cites multiple others right in the intro.
https://scholar.google.com/scholar?hl=en&as_sdt=0%2C38&q=male+emotional+expression&oq=male+emotion#d=gs_qabs&t=1695505963159&u=%23p%3DKu6cJMzgELQJ
I picked the first three results from your search and they don’t support your argument at all. They even call it out as a stereotype (which it is).
So sadness for leaders is neither ok for women or men.
https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1002/(SICI)1099-1379(200003)21:2%3C221::AID-JOB36%3E3.0.CO;2-0
Rather small sample size and the conclusion was very cautiously worded … so no facts that support your theory.
https://bpspsychub.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1348/135910703322370851
No proof for your theory either.
https://www.liebertpub.com/doi/abs/10.1089/10949310050191809
I may come back and review some more of the literature, because it really is an interesting topic.
Your last citation there actually seems relevant to OP, since they’re asking about this difference in how they feel around other men vs in mixed groups.
It would be useful to know if there are indeed more studies like this that maybe show that the stereotype (which aren’t inherently wrong or negative) is too vague, and i would like to know the specifics, maybe the stereotype only holds in male-dominant spaces. Or (and I think I’ve read this) when males are primed to act more masculine.