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General trans community.
Rules:
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Follow all blahaj.zone rules
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All posts must be trans-related. Other queer-related posts go to c/lgbtq.
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Don't post negative, depressing news articles about trans issues unless there is a call to action or a way to help.
Resources:
Best resource: https://github.com/cvyl/awesome-transgender Site with links to resources for just about anything.
Trevor Project: crisis mental health services for LGBTQ people, lots of helpful information and resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/
The Gender Dysphoria Bible: useful info on various aspects of gender dysphoria: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en
StainedGlassWoman: Various useful essays on trans topics: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/
Trans resources: https://trans-resources.info/
[USA] Resources for trans people in the South: https://southernequality.org/resources/transinthesouth/#provider-map
[USA] Report discrimination: https://action.aclu.org/legal-intake/report-lgbtqhiv-discrimination
[USA] Keep track on trans legislation and news: https://www.erininthemorning.com/
[GERMANY] Bundesverband Trans: Find medical trans resources: https://www.bundesverband-trans.de/publikationen/leitfaden-fuer-behandlungssuchende/
[GERMANY] Trans DB: Insurance information (may be outdated): https://transdb.de/
[GERMANY] Deutsche Gesellschaft für Transidentität und Intersexualität: They have contact information for their advice centers and some general information for trans and intersex people. They also do activism: dgti.org
*this is a work in progress, and these resources are courtesy of users like you! if you have a resource that helped you out in your trans journey, comment below in the pinned post and I'll add here to pass it on
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Thanks for sharing that, that helps me understand you a lot better!
I'm definitely not trying to tell you how you feel, that's for you to know for yourself, and you definitely know more about yourself that I do from just reading your comments.
However, that said,
sounds a lot to me like being genderflux - meaning your gender oscillates between one gender (male, in your case) and agender (not having a gender at all) or possibly some other nonbinary identity, depending on what you mean by 'not a man', without ever crossing onto the other side of the spectrum.
The fact that you prefer having a masculine body over a feminine body suggests to me that you're at least masculine of center, rather than transfeminine, but you could still be various forms of nonbinary that are masculine of center - agender, genderflux, demiboy, etc.
And it's also important to note that gender presentation is not the same as gender identity - you can want to express yourself in ways typically called 'feminine' without wanting to have a female body, and without being a woman - if you're not.
But all in all, these are just guesses, are any of my suggestions helpful in understanding your identity? Do any of those terms resonate with you?
Thank you so much, you have no idea what this comment means to me. You taught me many new words that I will now spend hours researching while I should be sleeping xDDD.
Thank you for your kindness and understanding :))))
Do you know how can I get rid of the feeling that I am being fake because I do not seem nonbinary?
I've got to sleep too, unfortunately, but please remind me to come back to this in the morning :3
One thing maybe you could tell me is what you mean by you don't 'seem' nonbinary? Like, you don't present androgynous/fem enough? To me, what you've said about not feeling male all the time seems to indicate that you are nonbinary at least in some form - and you don't need to look a certain way to be a gender
I present entirely masculine, and have my whole life. The only experimenting I can do, really, is with the hair and maybe wearing lighter colors. I don't want any body in the real life to suspect that I may be transgender (this is not out of my own transphobia but their).