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In 1967, a 22-year-old trans woman won a rural Wyoming beauty pageant. She entered the contest just a year after transitioning. Unfortunately, the judges disqualified her when she came out to a competitor. I guess trans women have an unfair advantage in beauty pageants?

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[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I think it's because Stephanie described it after all that happened. When Stephanie described it, she had already transitioned.

The saving up happened pre-transition.

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Yeah the shift to maintaining post transition name and pronouns when talking about pre translation selves is a relatively recent linguistic shift

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Hell, even within my family, I noticed the shift happening. My parents asked how to go about it when talking about pre-transition me.

I thought about it and I think it comes down to personal taste. Some prefer to cut ties with their pre-transition selves entirely, others don't as much or don't at all.

For me, I concluded that using the pre-transition names and pronouns would be suitable only in a certain user case.

That is, if we'd be talking about pre-transition me, with people who only knew me before transition (and likely wouldn't support transition nor meet me again much). Fortunately, that's very few people.

Elsewhere, only use the post-transition names and pronouns.