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[–] saimen@feddit.org 8 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (17 children)

There are scientific studies which show that parents are overall less happy than adults without kids.

Of course parents still do a lot of stuff but it's because most of the time it's even more stressful to stay at home with the kids. And as you noticed it's stuff mainly for the kids. Of course some things parents can enjoy as well. But the main thing about being a parent is that you can't just do what YOU what, especially not spontaneously.

And the post was about vibe and chill, which is definitely something parents do a lot less than they would like to.

[–] Lund3@sh.itjust.works 2 points 5 days ago (5 children)

Got a link for that study? I highly suspect that the happyness of the adults with Children depends on which country they are from.

[–] saimen@feddit.org 3 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (3 children)

No sorry, but I remember that in scandinavian countries the difference in happiness was much less, because raising children there is more seen as a societal task and less as the sole responsibility of the parents.

Edit: found it: https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/jomf.13116

[–] Foreigner@lemmy.world 4 points 5 days ago

tending to be more negative for parents facing more challenging conditions

I think the above point of the study is key. If you are already facing significant challenges in life (economic, psychological, physical, etc), adding kids is not going to make it any easier, and might make things worse. I know it's anecdotal but I'm personally pretty satisfied with my life, and that's continued to grow alongside my kids. But as I mentioned in my previous comment, I have the resources and support I need to make that happen. I also live in a country that provides a lot more support to families than somewhere like the US. Not going to say having kids is all muffins, puppies, and unicorn farts all the time. But it's been fulfilling to me, and if I had to go back and do it all again with my kids, I absolutely would.

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