Devolution, here, gave the best wisdom+understanding of all the one's who've spoken, that I can see.

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I don't match this-current-world, particularly.

My soul's previous-human-life lived in a monastery, in the Himalays.

I didn't know that for decades.

but kept trying to find my "home"..

The culture-difference between North American culture vs some Himalayan Buddhist monastery of centuries-ago..

it's like everybody's alien to what my "home" is, & I'm as "alien" to normals, as they are to me.

The reason this may matter, is simply that IF one finds one cannot tolerate the cultural-prejudice in one's local population,

then it may mean one needs to be associating with some people of a different culture?

Different age, some people in old-folks' homes are neat,

different religion, try finding a Sikh who has values you love, perhaps, as an honest friend..

or find historical men who had something in them that you value greatly, if you can.

Charles Darwin's anti-slavery I admire, especially since it was in the midst of the empire doing the slaving: he had guts.

Martin Luther King, Jr.. was incredible in what he improved, among our world.

I couldn't have meshed with him at all, but what world-treasure he contributed, in his own way.

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More & more & more I'm learning that EVERY person I find who looks like they could be a hero .. all of them .. were flawed in profound ways.

Which means they're human, as I am, as others are..

Rooseveldt .. seemed such a hero, until I read his vicious racism.

Churchill, too.

Newton doesn't seem to have been a particularly awesome guy in many ways: scientifically awesome, but .. not humanly..

More & more & more it's only people like the Hindus Ramana Maharshi, or Ramakrishna Vivekananda, or the Buddhists who simply go on-retreat & .. never return, .. whom I'm finding to be the people I value, treasure, admire, & want to become more like.

The world & I are .. incompatible, tbh.

& that's fine.

I've certainly learned much more this-way than this-life ever could have, if it had been born into what it already-knew!

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All this to say:

please search-out the exceptions, & earn relationship of some ( mental, e.g. ) kind.

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I discovered, some years ago, that because I live more in books, that the minds I am holding to be my friends, are minds like Simon Sinek ( see his TED Talk, e.g. )..

Best-of-breed books of understandings.

Not normal-people.

Also, not the-whole-author, only the well-crafted/well-edited portion of them!

So, the minds I have been associating are NOT like what normal people spend time with, in cafes, in TV, in bars, etc..

which is why I evolve more ( the adamant intolerance I have for "me" is a goad, but without the better-frame-of-reference, that goad wouldn't accomplish anything, but people evolve to match their context! Want to evolve more? Put your awareness in better-context! Simple rule, can't understand why so many won't use it.. )..

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& there's this, too:

IF you ask LivingSpirit, with your whole meaning, & let it do its thing, THEN it'll provide answer, eventually.

The trick to that is that one has to ask coherently, intentionally-meaning-it carefully, so one's unconscious-mind doesn't screw it up, one has to let-go & trust LivingSpirit to do its answering its-own-way, AND one has to let it happen at LivingSpirit's soul-evolution pace, instead of holding-onto today-ego's pace.

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I'm not asking you to like, or even not-hate, men/males.

I'm asking you to find friends in good nonfiction-books, books made of honest thinking, & let that be part of your frame-of-reference, too.

Simply by including a set of people outside of the set who are in some way bullying your validity/worth/potential/opportunity.. you can get healthier meaning/balance/frame-of-reference in your life.

For your-life's sake, see?

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Ah, if there's a particular culture which has hurt/wounded/persecuted/harmed you, & it's no-longer possible to engage them, because ANY engaging them opens all the old wounds..

get experiencing other cultures' people, if you can.

You know the truth that "on the internet, nobody knows that you're actually your grandmother's poodle!"?

The cultures, including racist, that exist on the internet, aren't dependent on skin-color: they're cultures, not skin-colors/"races".

That proved, decades ago, that racism is culture+identity and NOT rooted in appearances.

Appearances are only the "anchor" for the culture/identity.

Get away from the culture that harmed you, so you can heal.

Once I realized that it's cultural-alienation which is the factionalizing-force among us, then it dawned on me that we need to be putting subsets of our culture out there to be including others into.

Imagine a world where some whites could spend Kwanzaa immersing themselves in understanding it, honestly, as a means of enriching their lives..

Imagine a world where some non-Lebanese could spend a couple weeks immersing themselves in Lebanese culture, & finding some things that each individual grows with, for making their humanness more whole..

Imagine a world where this kind of cultural-inclusive-sharing were normal, & it was just normal for people to eclectically absorb stuff from all sorts of cultures, from the tropics to the arctic, because that is just how we do things..

That would erase racism-prejudice, through a few generations..

The cultural-segregation amplifes prejudice, it seems.

& I mean that in all directions: male-culture's prejudice/toxicity is multiplied by its segregation: if more males had the balls to intentionally experience+understand female-culture's wealth/gifts, & take some of them back into male lives, then our world would be richer..

instead .. male-bullying's normal, to "protect" exclusive-maleness..

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A few decades ago, I learned that in-relationship, one has many times as many realizations per day, as one does not-in-relationship.

I've also learned that frame-of-reference compatibility, & values-compatibility, are bedrock, & if you can't match them with anyone, then .. don't get into relationship.

That can be true of entire-cultures, too.

There are multiple cultures which hold that physicalism, or ritual, or tradition, or authority, is the LORD, & it isn't sane to hold any reality could ever question that axiom/assumption!!

& the more I avoid engaging them, the better.

If you've reached the point where a particular culture is only abuse of your-meaning.. please consider getting away from that-culture, for your life's sake?

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May something in this be useful for you, or anyone.

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Are you fighting your hatred of the slavs too?