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[–] Hansae@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

WS actually explicitly states they're pro trans & trans femme and allow them to post there but alright.

[–] HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 1 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago) (1 children)

and yet they banned me for being nonbinary, after harassing me for months for refusing to out myself.

[–] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 4 points 5 hours ago

Blahaj zone admin here. I've looked in to this situation, and it's time for some clarification.

The community in question is a community that restricts access to women and to gender diverse folk whose gender identity aligns with womanhood in some way. The mods don't decide who's "woman enough", nor do they care whats in your pants. If you feel that your gender identity aligns with womanhood enough that the community is a good fit for you, then you are welcome to post there. However, due to the restriction on who can participate, the mods do need to confirm that you are in the right community. Whether it's your post history, or a response to a challenge from a mod, you do need to make your gender explicit enough to confirm that you are a valid participant, because that is the only way to keep the community restricted to the target audience. If you're not comfortable providing that information, that's fine, but you will either need to avoid the community, or engage with it on a second account, where you can be more open about your identity without invading the privacy of your main account.

In any case, the mod log shows that you were banned for a) breaking the rules for who can participate and b) for being uncivil and rude.

The first, was incorrect. You've stated that your identity fits within the community, and if you'd have approached a mod or an admin to confirm that in a civil fashion, the whole situation would have been over before it began.

The second however, was valid, and is why the ban still stands. You have a mile long moderation history of rude and aggressive behaviour, and multiple community bans for similar reasons. Post hoc validation of this is that since the ban, rather than approach an admin or mod, you have at multiple points in time dragged this up in public in a way designed to misrepresent and inflame the situation. You have falsely conflated the mods asking for confirmation of your identity as harassment, as well as stating that you've been asked about your genitals as a requirement to participate, which is simply false, because a) you weren't asked and b) the answer doesn't impact your right to participate in the community. On top of that, you've also accused them of being TERFs, which was presumably intended to imply that only cis women are allowed to participate in the community, also false.