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Privacy for me has been incredibly rewarding, but when talking to people who haven't been introduced to privacy, there are occasionally some moments that make it exhausting. One conversation in particular is one that I've had to go through dozens of times, and it always goes along these lines:

  • Alice: Why is your phone in airplane mode? / What's your phone number?
  • Bob: I don't have a carrier.
  • Alice: But you have a phone.
  • Bob: Yes.
  • Alice: How do you not have a carrier?
  • Bob: Phones can come without a carrier.
  • Alice: What do you use it for?
  • Bob: Everything you use yours for.
  • Alice: How do you talk to people?
  • Bob: Messaging apps over Wi-Fi.
  • Alice: What if you don't have Wi-Fi?
  • Bob: Public Wi-Fi is everywhere. If I don't have Wi-Fi, I likely don't need to get in touch.
  • Alice: What about emergencies?
  • Bob: I can still contact emergency services.

Each time it happens, it has a unique flavor. One person accused me of lying and then fraud. I know people are just curious and don't mean to be rude, but it makes me die a little inside every time someone asks. I've begun trying to sidestep the conversation entirely:

  • Alice: Why is your phone in airplane mode?
  • Bob: To save battery.

or:

  • Alice: What's your phone number?
  • Bob: You can contact me with an app called Signal.

People seem to think that a phone automatically comes with a carrier and that it'll stop working if you don't have one. In reality, I'm saving hundreds of dollars per year while avoiding spam, fraud, breaches, surveillance, and being chronically online. People have a hard time coping with those who do things a little differently.

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[–] artyom@piefed.social 14 points 4 days ago (2 children)

I made a website whose entire existence is dedicated to my "profile" (myname.com). So when someone asks for contact info, I send them there. It gives them the opportunity to contact me using their preferred method, as well as being able to easily find it in the future if they lose it or I change it.

It has:

  • phone # (obv could be omitted)
  • email
  • link to Signal
  • link to ArcaneChat
  • link to Matrix
  • link to SimpleX
  • my blog
  • Mastodon
  • Steam
  • Zelle
  • etc.

It's also the first link that comes up, or one of the first, for most people, if they Google me. I also carry basically a business card, but without the business, with QR code and domain.

[–] Charger8232@lemmy.ml 10 points 4 days ago (2 children)

I also carry basically a business card, but without the business, with QR code and domain.

I wanted to do this and only put my contact for my SimpleX Chat, but good business cards are expensive!

[–] XLE@piefed.social 15 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Especially if you're looking for that perfect shade of white.

[–] grimpy@lemmy.myserv.one 5 points 4 days ago

they’re embossed, aren’t they?

[–] apotheotic@beehaw.org 3 points 3 days ago

Let's see Paul Allen's website

[–] artyom@piefed.social 6 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

I got 250 of them from VistaPrint in 2019 for <$50 and still have a bunch left.

E: just checked and they are $18 for 50

[–] bonsai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 4 days ago (1 children)

This sounds like a great idea but I do worry about crawlers scraping this gold mine of personal details. Do you put the site behind a password that you include on the business card or something?

[–] artyom@piefed.social 7 points 4 days ago

No, I don't consider any of this to be private or valuable information.