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How do I convince an illiterate family member to let me teach them how to read? (literature.cafe)

submitted 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) by Karl@literature.cafe to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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They have never been to school. They've never said anything about wanting to read. But when they have to read something, they pretend they forgot their glasses or smth like that. They're insecure about it. I feel sad for them. That said, they're pretty stubborn. What can I possibly do to convince them to try learning?

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[–] Azzu@lemmy.dbzer0.com 45 points 1 day ago (2 children)

As a formerly insecure person, just offer to teach them if they want, and then never mention it again. Once they're ready to get over their insecurity, they will contact you, or not.

[–] dohpaz42@lemmy.world 17 points 1 day ago

This right here. Constantly nagging them about something they are ashamed of will only make them more resistant to help.

[–] lalo@discuss.tchncs.de 8 points 1 day ago

Agreed, also recommend doing this completely in private so they don't feel like there may be other people listening to your offer.