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You say that the common depictions of scissoring is not representative of tribbing as a whole. Which I completely agree with. Because tribbing is a word for "rubbing the vulva against something for stimulation".
But that doesn't mean that scissoring isn't real. It's a specific form of tribbing. And there obviously are people who have done and enjoyed that, and are now confused why people tell everyone that it isn't real.
Sure, it may not look like the common porn depiction. But it may surprise you that the porn industry isn't really good at representing actual sex in general. And just because you yourself don't enjoy this position doesn't mean others no not as well.
I thought the argument was the opposite, that it exists only in porn
I'm not 100% sure what the argument has become. Their source even lists the reason "scissoring" as it's commonly shown in porn (the barbie thing) isn't the real act. I think the issue is that I am using the term "scissoring" to refer to the barbie thing, as that is how the term is used among every lesbian I have interacted with as well as in all the writing about this topic from lesbians that I have engaged with, and their source is using the term "scissoring" as an umbrella term for "tribbing" (which they have clarified they're doing).
I don't think that we disagree on concept, just that they are arguing from a position of slight semantic difference. "Scissoring" the position seen in porn isn't "real" tribbing. It's a bit like the sex tips in cosmo - are there men that might enjoy having a doughnut eaten off their shaft, or who enjoy being jabbed in the balls with a fork while getting head? Yeah, probably, but I'm pretty sure we can agree that those specific examples shouldn't be used as the common representation of what a "blowjob" consists of. Nor do I suspect anyone is going to argue that the insane and grotesque sex acts on urban dictionary are "real", even if someone might have tried one of them once.
Anyone can do anything, and people are weird about sex - but as they're intimated, the common depiction of the sex act in porn is a bad representation, and that is all I have been saying. If the argument truly is just that they think scissoring refers to all tribbing, their own sources show that's a contested claim.
Yeah I think you've got it right that it largely has taken to mean in the community the most physically uncomfortable looking version of vulva-vulva tribbing, risk of kicking each other in the face and all. But that some people may be using it to refer to any vulva-vulva tribbing, possibly even mutual thigh tribbing, which can be comfortable, extremely erotic, and is very common. Or as you say, all tribbing. I've never thought of it as including such acts, but I see it for some of it. All it can take for a local community to start referring to it that way would be one slutty woman who calls it that and is really into it, then within a few years it's all scissoring in Milwaukee