This is a community in the spirit of "Am I The Asshole" where people can post their own bans from lemmy or reddit or whatever and get some feedback from others whether the ban was justified or not.
Sometimes one just wants to be able to challenge the arguments some mod made and this could be the place for that.
All posts should follow this basic structure:
Expect to receive feedback about your posts, they might even be negative.
Make sure you follow this instance's code of conduct. In other words we won't allow bellyaching about being sanctioned for hate speech or bigotry.
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Today, i couldnt upvote a post from anarchymemes@anarchist.nexus so i decided to check it out on my pc. i noticed that i was banned from the com even though i havent posted anything on the com nor the instance. i guess the reason for the ban is that i posted a meme to different comm a while ago. The meme is homophobic but i didnt know it when i was posting it. After finding out it was homophonic, i added a disclaimer to my post.
i dont think i deserved the ban, and i want to hear your thoughts.
Who is “enough people?”
The queer community is not a monolith and we do not all agree with this bad take. I sure don’t and I do not appreciate people speaking for me, especially when it reflects poorly on me through no fault of my own. Nor do I appreciate the abuse that mods have exhibited in this thread. The original situation could have been a misunderstanding and it could have been resolved here. Instead, the mods of that community have doubled down on the toxic abuse and rhetoric.
If you want to speak for yourself speak for yourself. You don’t speak for me or my community.
They're own word were "I added disclaimer because other people explained to me why it was homophobic”, that implies multiple other people and as such the 'enough' was whatever number it took of those other people explaining it to OP for them to learn.
Good for you, you also don't speak for me and my community.
I have watched friends die while an entire country cheered and declared it was God’s divine judgement. My family is still actively under attack, our lives threatened constantly, by fascists who claim the namesake of a religion whose tenets they actively oppose. I have lost people. Real people. They suffered unimaginably physically, mentally, and emotionally and died and aren’t coming back. Don’t you baby gays and false allies lecture me on homophobia. I have lived through shit you can’t even seem to imagine. I giggled at that dumb post.
Don’t waste the good will you have earned by dying on this stupid, hurtful hill. I’m happy that you have it good enough that silly internet jokes are the benchmark of homophobia for you. The cost for such a world was immense and it can be undone by careless ally attacks like this. Do. Better.
Please do better.
I have not seen people I know be killed for it, and I am sorry you have. But I have been beaten bloody many times in my life for my orientation. I have no tolerance for it, even in a 'mild' form. I am sick of being made into a joke or worse - jokes about being gay made my life horrible during the '90s and '00s and directly fueled a culture of violence.
My heart genuinely aches for you. I understand what you are talking about all too well. Society is fucking awful and terminally sick. But it’s critical to recognize that this is not that. The joke was not mean spirited or disparaging or mocking in any way. At worst, it was AI slop, which is a different kind of problem. Being included in jokes is not homophobic, and it would have worked just as well if Bubba happened to be Hillary’s nickname. This wasn’t a “Dave Chappelle is punching down at others expense” kind of joke.
Also, Trump and Clinton are Olympian class sluts who spent time in the same circles, and I wouldn’t bat an eyelash if those two really did fuck at one point.