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I recognize the mtf nuance of this, but.... isnt just a rehash of "women be shopping" boomer humor?
How is this a rehash of women be shopping? I'm a woman, I enjoy shopping, am I not allowed to rejoice in that? Or are you saying that transfeminine people must avoid any kind of behavior or preference associated with western feminine gender roles?
I think it's the way the panels are labelled. I think if it read just "Before" and "Now", or something like that, it would clearly be about personal experience, funny, maybe relatable.
But with "Shopping as a man/woman" it can interpreted as either personal experience of both sides OR broad sweeping generalisations of what men/women must all experience when shopping. And that second version is the boomer rehash.
I think this is mostly it. The labeling just feels like it immediately conjures up this trope
At a glance, OPs formatting feels like its cut from the same template. "Before/After" would probably help break that connection.
It's a trans comic so the before/now are clearly implied, to me. "[me] shopping as a guy" vs "[me] shopping as a woman"
I can only name one chain that has men clothes not on 2. story or higher. They have a special all mixed concept.
Edit: woops, overlooked the femboy part. Still, the pain is real.
But women DO be shopping
As much as I enjoy finding new clothes as a cis guy I kinda like it being in one floor / area. Maybe I'm closer to boomer but technically I'm just Gen x. So whatever.
I was amused by the comic To each their own preference, and I'll gladly think think that's cool too, that's what makes us all great.