Seriously. Every form of entertainment has baked-in political assumptions, and that definitely includes #ttrpg . You might choose not to examine them, but this is an active choice on your part, and you don't get to pretend that your entertainment is "free of politics".
The politics those people wish to avoid is things like the princess wanting to escape a political marriage because she's gay
They don't mind politics just so long as it's not gender or identity politics
The Irony, is that while at least in my local community, the young generation includes a lot of openly neurodivergent gay/enbi players, I feel like that the reason why the theme is so sensitive for older player is that many of the older player never thought the time to question about-it, you know, the 50 year old "straight" conventionally attractive long term single who always play the other gender, may not just be too busy to date