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(cant find the aita community) am i a bad person for saying "women" instead of "people who can get pregnant"? (piefed.social)

submitted 8 hours ago by therealverobiscuit@piefed.social to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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hi, so i recently discovered im more left wing (democratic) than right wing (republican), but im still not the most politically correct. earlier today we were discussing abortion and i said i felt bad for the women who the anti abortion people affect, but my friend corrected me and said i meant "people who get pregnant", because men (like trans men but still men) can get pregnant. and not all women get pregnant so it doesnt affect them. she said it gently but i feel like an ass</3

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[–] hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.world 8 points 4 hours ago

You are not.

To me this sounds like one of these things where some of us lefties can get into the weeds of "perfect" language.

Sure, if you are talking to someone like that and using the wrong words, then that could be kind of shitty but even then if people care about you they will give you grace and just hope you will get it right at some point.

You don't have to say the right words every time, but when it's important, you should make an effort to try.

It feels a bit over the top of you're not directly talking to someone affected. But maybe that's a me thing.

TL;DR no. You're good. Don't take these comments personally but also don't completely ignore them.