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So I have a friend, ACTUAL friend not a "this is me but I don't wanna say situation" who has identified as trans ever since she was like, 13 or 14. She doesn't have the insurance to cover the treatments but that can be dealt with, the bigger issue is that while she really WANTS to start, she's deathly afraid of what it's going to do to her social circles. Which I kinda get, she's in....not a very accepting area. But she feels like she can't starts unless she moves away otherwise she's just going to cause issues for her family, like specific examples she brought up being her dad pulled over and ticketed for random bullshit because of her. It's a small town but not THAT small. I'm not sure what to do or say about it. I've obviously just been encouraging her to do what she wants, when she wants, but I can tell she's getting more and more frustrated with the situation as time goes on and I just thought maybe I'd ask here for advice or thoughts or input or something. Thank you all in advance

Thank you everyone for your help! Definitely going to pass it on. I think I'm going to log out forever now though. I'm really tired to be honest. And everything is just a bit waves hands much. Especially today. You guys were a nice light though <3 Thank you

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[–] hoyland@beehaw.org 6 points 1 week ago

Is it possible she's not actually 'ready'? It sounds like, from your perspective anyway, she could reasonably start hormones just fine (and has likely incurred much of the social risk already by socially transitioning), but is coming up with reasons (of varying plausibility) why she can't. I know that a lot of transition steps felt like these almost insurmountable hurdles for a long time and then... they didn't, and I did the thing.