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No.
Being able to consent means being able to both understand what you're consenting to and being able to communicate that you consent to it.
A drunk person can't understand what they're consenting to and, after certain levels of drunkenness, can't communicate their consent either. Therefore they can't consent. You, being sober, should know this and therefore shouldn't take advantage of them. If you do take advantage of them, then that makes you a rapist.
As the other commenter pointed out, I hope the women around you know you're not a safe person to be around.
Given what you've said so far I'm gonna call bullshit on that.
Literally re-read what I said.
If the person can't handle the beer then it cannot consent. If you're sober and they're drunk then you are raping them.
There's 2 questions that must be asked in these situation
did she consent to it before being drunk?
is she capable of still understanding what's going on and guve/remove consent?
If the answer to any one of these is "no", "wellll", "idk", "I think/guess so", or anything other than a very clear yes then she can't consent. And when in doubt, assume the answer is no.