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I'm becoming overwhelmingly materialistic (lemmy.zip)

submitted 1 week ago by choihanna@lemmy.zip to c/goodoffmychest@lemmy.world

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My only hobby is shopping, even if I can't afford it I prefer to not eat if I can get new shoes, jewelry, clothes... I don't understand how I ended up like this.

As a kid I was the complete opposite... I didn't demand any toys. But I guess my teenage years were too traumatic causing me so much self-consciousness about myself.

Now I have a very high maintenance appearance, clothes, jewelry and stilettos make me feel better about that void. The compliments I receive on the street feed this fake ego I'm building.

I've become so selfish I think I care more about getting what I want more than I care about people. People are disgusting and evil and deserve all the bad that happens to them, but a nice dress? There's nothing wrong it could do.

The only reason I have friends is so that they praise my appearance. There's no point in looking good if no one notices it.

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[–] Cherry@piefed.social 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Do you want peace or stuff? I equate buying to how much more I have to work. And using stuff to aquire and keep friends that’s gonna go wrong before too long.

I grew sick of stuff, i have to work for it, i have to tidy it, maintain it and then it just sits around.

I stopped buying as much as possible and switched to under consuming.

Your value is not tied to how you look, and if they are real friends they are not around you for how you look. You need a new high sweetie, fill your heart not your closet and ego.