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How do you cope with loneliness? (lemmy.world)

submitted 6 days ago by deadymouse@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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It's not that I don't have anyone to talk to, it's that I don't have anything to talk about with others, and sometimes it happens that it's impossible to endure that loneliness and I want to socialize so badly, and I don't want to drink alcohol or watch shows on Netflix to drown out that feeling, because lately it hasn't helped. I wonder how you deal with it?

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[–] folaht@lemmy.ml 4 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

How can you not have anything to talk about?

Don't you have a list of questions you want to ask or statements you wish to share with your friends?

[–] Xavienth@lemmygrad.ml 1 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I work 8 hours and then I come home and cook dinner, what the hell is there to talk about? I don't like talking about work because I try to forget it exists, and I don't have time to do anything else.

[–] folaht@lemmy.ml 1 points 3 days ago

Yeah, I know that feeling.
Are you diagnosed as autistic by any chance?
If not and you haven't done a diagnosis, I suggest you do so.
One of the things I never noticed was that other people have enough energy left after 8 hours of work to have hobbies.
That gave me insight on my own life.

In any case, ask yourself. What is it that you would like your friends to know about you and what do they enjoy talking about?

Think of your dreams, achievements, things that bother you, things that interest you, things you notice.

What are theirs? How do they view yours?
What's their social circle like? What makes them enjoy the things they do?

And then ask questions while also telling about a bit about yourself so that it feels like a conversation instead of an interview.

And be careful with politics and religion.
People can get very judgemental and confident on that subject, including oneself.

And try to find common ground, because it's nice to have shared thoughts.
Like I could ask for example how you how got to communism and what it means to you.