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By constantly modeling respectful good behavior and correcting them when they are rude or mean to each other.
That's the funny thing about kids. It's the same with pets. The problem isn't them, it's you. You have to learn how to behave better so that they behave better
I think two things that are common causes of sibling bad feelings are differences in treatment, and handling of sibling conflicts, both of which can create feelings of unfairness and resentment.
I don't have prescriptions for those things. Kids are different and necessarily need to be treated differently. But one should be aware of how this can feel unfair to one sibling. And be aware of how your need to end conflicts and restore order can again wind up being unfair to one sibling.
I think the hardest thing is being able to see things from their points of view.
Yes, but there is no guarantee this will work.
Doing nothing returns a substancially more probable outcome of sibling rivalry/hatred.
Family sense, notion and belonging are taught.
There's no guarantee that anything will ever work. Look for siblings that love and respect each other. Then look at the type of home they came from. Try to emulate what you see.