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Have any advice on dealing with difficult things? (piefed.social)
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I don’t have a lot of people to turn to, never really have.. I’ve been pretty isolated most of my life, so I’ve just sort of muddled through by reading a lot and trying to figure out how to deal with stuff on my own.

But I’m not really sure how to handle this. I’m disabled and have been most of my life, and I haven’t really let it stop me for the most part. It gets in the way, but I brute force my way through. Often to my own detriment.

I guess I’m not doing as well as I thought.. I’m applying for a disability upgrade, and one of the things I can submit is statements in support of my claim, letters from the people around me about how my disability impacts my life, and theirs. If this doesn’t sound like a normal disability process that’s because this is the VA service-connected disability process, rather than a normal one.

Anyway, I asked a couple of my closest friends to write something up about how they have seen the impacts, and it low-key hurt my soul to read. Reading how they have been negatively impacted by my limitations, and how they view what I go through has been the worst kind of eye opening.

And I’m not sure how to deal with that, or even where to look.

If you’ve got motherly or fatherly advice, if you’ve been through similar, if you’ve been through something else hard, please feel free to share. Anything helps.

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[–] FoxyFerengi@startrek.website 5 points 1 month ago

The VA offers therapy in a few different formats. I bring this up as a disabled veteran myself, sometimes its just really nice to talk to another veteran who has been through the same thing and hear their perspective.

You have wonderful friends and I'm glad you have their support! But I also know from personal experience how difficult it is to upgrade a disability rating, so I really encourage you to ask your local cboc or VA facility to get you in touch with a peer support. They can even go along with you to the c&p exam to make sure you are heard, and help you talk about the things that are in those letters.

I now have 100% for PTSD, and if that's what you're trying to increase for, I can definitely say it's a more difficult exam than the first one was