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What is your dating peeves? (kbin.melroy.org)

submitted 1 week ago by flamiera@kbin.melroy.org to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Mine has always been those who can't make up their mind whether they want to bother with you or not. Like I have someone who, what felt like was pulling teeth almost, to confess whether they were interested in me or not. The best they could say was "I didn't say I am but I also didn't say I'm not either". Like what the hell kind of response is that?

With things like that, I am a 'yes' or 'no' type of person. Don't be dicking with my feelings like that. In fact, I would want to hear 'no' by this point because that would give me the release to pursue others.

Another peeve is lack of building. I'm huge on building. Pry into my world and I'll pry into yours, lets learn eachother as much as we can. We can't learn anything if the conversation is always short-strung by one-wording eachother to death.

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[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 12 points 6 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

basically how gender-war most dating has become.

before social media i never really dealt with women or dated women who were did the whole 'you are a man, i am a woman' bullshit. but now it's like all i ever deal with and since i am not willing to basically pay women to date me I don't really date anymore, since every woman in my city i meet has decided she has a price tag to date her and any man that isn't spending $1000s on her 'doesn't value her', and they all expect you to be a millionaire. seriously, my last dozen short term relationships all ended because the woman basically said 'pay up if you want to keep seeing me' and I said no thanks.

it's so transactional, it's gross. i won't even go into the ' a real man must make all the decisions in the relationship' nonsense, that also seems to be having a HUGE uptick this decade. i'm not interested in dating a toddler in an adult body and being a daddy, thanks.

i never dealt with any of this in the 2000s or 2010s. women wanted to be your partner and pay their own way and wanted an emotional connection, not a financial one. not sure what the hell happened to all that, I really liked it and it was a lot more fun.

[–] zqps@sh.itjust.works 3 points 5 days ago

Did you maybe start with online dating? That's where the transactional thing really is omnipresent and it sucks.