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What is your dating peeves? (kbin.melroy.org)

submitted 1 week ago by flamiera@kbin.melroy.org to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Mine has always been those who can't make up their mind whether they want to bother with you or not. Like I have someone who, what felt like was pulling teeth almost, to confess whether they were interested in me or not. The best they could say was "I didn't say I am but I also didn't say I'm not either". Like what the hell kind of response is that?

With things like that, I am a 'yes' or 'no' type of person. Don't be dicking with my feelings like that. In fact, I would want to hear 'no' by this point because that would give me the release to pursue others.

Another peeve is lack of building. I'm huge on building. Pry into my world and I'll pry into yours, lets learn eachother as much as we can. We can't learn anything if the conversation is always short-strung by one-wording eachother to death.

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[–] Maeve@kbin.earth 14 points 1 week ago (2 children)

If you have to ask, that's your answer. People prioritize and make time for whatever is important to them. It sounds like you were something to do if there was nothing better to do.

[–] umbrella@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

or the other person was unsure and didn't want to commit.

[–] Maeve@kbin.earth 3 points 1 week ago

Then say so.

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago

bingo. if they make you feel like an option it's because you are an option while they seek someone else or wait for someone better to come along.