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Remember to try to be kind and patient with yourself as much as possible. It's hard starting over, so give yourself some grace if you hit any stumbling blocks are false starts.
I expect mostly false starts for a while tbh. I need to learn to give myself more slack, so I'll get plenty of experience lol
Are you familiar with the idea of separating your self identity from your thoughts, so you can learn not to immediately internalise habitual negative self talk and that sort of thing? Might be relevant and useful.
I've gotten pretty good at aikido'ing intrusive self-bullying thoughts out of my mind before they do damage. Its helped a lot with self esteem and "ideations" etc. I still have all these learned/inherited values that I don't even believe in but still have to combat all the time to avoid feeling like a complete loser.
(But I gotta find a place to volunteer. Pretty sure it's the missing thing for me. I've tried reconnecting with old friends and came to the sad realisation that I don't actually like spending time with most of them.)
Anyway, I hope have some early successes regardless of how long it takes to get to a place where you're happy and content with your circumstances n shit.
Sort of. I'm aware I should do it and often do but don't know any strategies or anything. I'll look it up
You might find a bunch of meditation oriented info but don't let that turn you off if it's not your thing. It's a habit or skill that gets easier and more automatic over time. Tho, I'm not an authority by any means, I still sometimes tell myself "no" out loud if I feel a bad though spiral forming. Pretty crude but it seems to break the cycle so I can focus my attention elsewhere.
Enough of my rambling tho. โ๏ธ
Your rambling was very helpful!