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The lack of testosterone seems to have reduced my distaste for some masculine physical traits I will admit, but overall it hasn't changed that I'm primarily attracted to women, especially sexually. But I've been out as pansexual for a long time with a strong lean towards women and non-binary people.
The thing that has skewed me away from men and penises on others has mostly been my dislike of anal sex. Now that I have a vagina, that's not as big of a concern, though still not driving me to wanting penetration. And I still don't really like lots of facial, chest, or back hair and some other masculine traits, but those are as much socially driven as physically. I mean cis-women have facial and body hair, just less of it and social pressure means women often remove it.
So, I think if its that almost instinctual repulsion to same gender people that some people have, then that might mellow out. But I think, anecdotally, that that feeling is more socially driven and learned than biological as is commonly thought. Otherwise, homosexual behavior in cis-men who are otherwise "straight" wouldn't be as common (recent news topic about a very powerful person possibly very relevant there, lol). Just my opinion as someone who is pansexual and agender and so hasn't experienced that stuff outside of social conditioning which took a long time to break and was long before HRT.
It's not really a repulsion towards men so much as masculinity and masculine features. Some super effeminate femboys can be attractive, but it's always because of their femininity. Basically if you take a scale of most masculine to most feminine and apply all men to it I'd find the most feminine 0.05% attractive. Whereas it's probably only the least feminine 0.05% of women that I don't find attractive.
Good point, I should have said repulsion to masculine typical features not men since not all men have those features.