I made some off-hand comments on a post on 196 and didn't realize they'd be taken the wrong way. I made a few more comments to help clarify my idea but caught a blanket ban from blahaj.zone with no warning or message.

https://lemmy.world/modlog?page=1&actionType=All&userId=588349

I'm mortified :( It's never been my goal to make others feel bad online. I had a quibble with the wording on a meme and clumsily worded my idea of "Our differences shouldn't be minimized because they make us special" was seen as transphobia/TERF rhetoric.

But with no prior warnings or even a message from a mod to 'cool it', I got banned from the entire instance. I love these communities (feel free to look at my 2.5 years of comment/post history) and I would like to be able to continue to participate.

So, is there a formalized method of ban appeal beyond messaging mods? Their instance has like 12, so I don't want to spam them and have it seen as harassment.

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[–] Zoomboingding@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I was indeed just stating that it can be important (e.g. it's important your doctor knows you're trans), but obviously I was a dumbass for trying to make my point this way.

[–] dzsimbo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 day ago

Yeah, I think it's more of a problem of you mansplaining (sorry if you don't identify :)) something that you are not directly going through.

I don't think you're necessarily coming from a bad place, but after reading mech's comment on blahaj, it looks like you tried to toe a line and grossly miscalculated.

If you really want back with this account, you probably want to let it simmer a bit. Take some time thinking about what you can learn from and contribute to the community, and message a mod or two (maybe they have a dl) when you figure it out. I wouldn't bother with trying to explain the situation.