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What's an artificial limitation you put on yourself that has improved your personal life? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 6 days ago) by SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I've designated one room in my house to be an Airplane Mode room. Technically it has WiFi but whenever I'm in it I behave as if my phone didn't have any reception. Believe it or not, actively pretending that your phone has no WiFi works better than just passively putting on airplane mode. I always get a sense of calmness when I enter.

What artificial limits do you impose on yourself that ultimately enrich your life?

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[–] makingStuffForFun@lemmy.ml 28 points 1 week ago (2 children)

After a long, unhealthy relationship, I ended up in a very promising relationship.

It took many years if half truths to her, and then full disclosures, and eventually, a full and total disclosure of my past, my desires, my weaknesses, the whole lot.

She barely flinched. She saw me for who I was / am.

From that moment we bonded deeper than I've ever thought possible.

Nobody could hijack us. Nothing could try to surprise us and derail / damage us. Shame was thrown out the window. There is none. We know everything. We meet as honestly as is possible each day.

Do it. I highly recommend it. However, there was a right time. If we'd done it too early, we wouldn't have worked.

So with that backstory. Always telling the truth to my partner. No matter how scary it seems.

Truth, truth, truth.

[–] greatwhitebuffalo41@slrpnk.net 4 points 5 days ago

As someone who has a lot of trauma and is going through something similar with a new partner, it's so freeing just having someone get me.

[–] spykee@lemmings.world 6 points 1 week ago

So you are into pegging. We know brah!
It's tots normal my man. We all are, we all love it. You were just living under a rock.
Good thing your woman has patience.
Happy for you and your dom gurl!