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Somebody important is mean to me and I don't know why. Nobody seems to know why in that person's entourage.
People are optional. All people are optional. Some with believe they are owed a place in your life for one reason or another. Remind them how wrong they are by going no contact or repeatly sending the same messege that you are no longer replying to them. How long or short that is, is up to you.
Perhaps their behavior will change after this reminder, but I wouldn't hold my breath. People suck.
Mean in the "went no contact (and mean when we do have to have contact for one reason or another) overnight, for seamingly no reason and don't want to tell me or anyone else what's wrong" way. Actually they promised me that they were going to tell me what their issue was, but they never did. It is the second time something (exactly) like this happened with this person and the first time they made the same promise, and did only tell me after an important event that can not be reproduced this time.
Talk to them directly.
A rational person might talk it through. A mean person will turn up the mean. 0/10, cannot recommend
Yes.
Understood
Won't work sadly. It already happened before, got solved by a true miracle (I don't want to share here what happened, but it was the most impressive "right time, right place and right people" thing I've ever heard of). And I wanted to talk (still want to talk btw) but they don't.
Last time I saw their "normal" self they really appreciated me but that seemed to have changed overnight (literally).