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My spouse and I have drunk sex.
If I'm at a party and I've been with a person for a few months, have already had sex before, and already talked about doing it after I also see no issue.
If you are going to a party that is explicitly for sex and drugs, you should expect to have drunk sex with strangers. You know know this is going to happen before becoming intoxicated.
If you have talked about maybe making the attempt to date show up so a party on E and corner someone in a walk in pantry, that isn't fine.
But what if both people are on MDMA? I know I get very horny on it and fall in love with everything.
My second and third paragraph should have that covered.
If it is a situation where you know you get horny and someone is trying MDMA for the first time, you don't disclose that you do get horny, and you have sex. I would say that is a gray area that leans towards bad.
My first time trying edibles was with someone that I already had sex with and was planning on having sex with that night. If we got horny from that and fucked sooner than expected then that would be fine.
I guess to sum up, if you put someone in a situation where they don't have knowledge of the possibilities that is bad. Everyone already feels this when it comes to other things. Like hidden fees. They said x but y happened. Why should I expect y to happen? This is a new situation and I'm ignorant and you took advantage of it. Even if I got what I originally wanted the "price" changed.