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[–] gingerbrat@hexbear.net 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Hey sweetheart, first of all I'm sorry you have to deal with your mother's behavior on top of the chronic pain. I think it's amazing how much you managed to accomplish in spite of it all, and I hope you can feel proud of yourself, for your accomplishments as well as you being you.

That said, I don't think there is a clear way of making your mother understand how you feel. There's a few things you can try. If your mom is inclined to listen to you, maybe try to tell her how you feel and how your disability affects you on an emotional level as well as a physical level. Make sure to not compare yourself to others, and stop her from comparing you to others. Say something like "This isn't about other people, this is about me, how I'm feeling and how I'm struggling." You need to be very patient but firm while you do it, which is always hard when you talk to a parent. I hope this way works out for you.

If your mother refuses to listen, however, I'd suggest getting that parking permit regardless of what she says. You're an adult, you have a right to ask for these things and to receive help, whether or not your mother agrees with it or not.

On a more lighthearted note to cheer you upHaving a cane is good if it helps you, but it's also a good opportunity to customize it and make it your own. Make it look unique to you, if you haven't done so already, and color it, give it some racing stripes or flames, whatever you like and makes you smile when you use it. It's your support, and I think it makes it easier to wear it with pride. meow-hug

[–] IdealisticGrubb@hexbear.net 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Thank you for your support and comment meow-hug Luckily I do believe that she is willing to listen with time. In regards to you other note, I made sure to do some customizing and once I decided on using it more I wrapped it with faux leather to make its accents pop doggirl-thumbsup

[–] gingerbrat@hexbear.net 3 points 1 week ago

I hope it does help you meow-hug

And it sounds lovely! Hope it brings you some joy alongside the help! doggirl-grin