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Im getting back with an ex after a split up of a month and a half (she slept with bartender during that time, but I can forgive, we weren't together). Im in treatment right now and mainly focused on that. But ive been talking on the phone with her at night for like 8 hours at a time, and I always get paranoid theres another dude in the background eating her out or something. Not sure how to get rid of these thoughts, seems a little brazen she'd stay on the phone with me for 8 hours talking about kids and marriage and how she loves me if there was another dude there eating her out.

Idk how to purge these thoughts from my head

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[–] hello_hello@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Then I just recommend speaking on the phone less until you move in together. 2 hours seems like a better limit since you can give more time to yourself to work through your intrusive thoughts rather than having them stew for a long time while you're talking.

Anyway this is just advice on the internet, ultimately only you can do what you think is right.