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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by MTK@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

So I met this girl by chance and we really hit it off, once I learned of her age I decided to just be friends as I think that 19 to 25 is an age were we mature a lot and I remember myself as a 19yo and I was not mature enough to be a good partner and to be good to myself.

I talked to a female friend of mine and she said that I'm over thinking it and that I should ask her out and be open minded, and so I did and we are going on a date soon.

The thing is, she seems really mature but I can't put aside the age gap.

Am I over thinking it? Should I really just take it slow and just be vigilant about the situation and notice if this isn't healthy for me or her?

Or should I let her down easy and continue as friends?

Update: We went on a date and it was great, I read all of the comments and there were some really good advices that I took to heart. I will take things slow and try to be as aware of the situation as possible. I hope it will go well :)

Thank you everyone!

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[-] random_character_a@lemmy.world 105 points 1 year ago

From a viewpoint of a 40+ you are practically the same age.

[-] dill@lemmy.one 17 points 1 year ago

While I agree it's hard to deny they are really not that far apart in terms of age, 19 year olds and 25 year olds are worlds apart. Disclaimer: American, can't speak for other cultures

[-] ScreaminOctopus@sh.itjust.works 6 points 1 year ago

Yeah I'd really have a hard time dating someone who is likely still living with their parents if I'd been on my own a year or two. I wouldn't consider making the relationship serious until I knew they could stand on their own feet.

[-] Corkyskog@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago

It really depends though, some people are just really mature at a young age. I know some teenagers who are unfortunately taking care of their parent(s) and siblings. Life is very different for different people.

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