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I don't want an explanation of what is going on, but what the problem is. That should be relatively simple to articulate.
E.g. we can't help but escalate to more serious and less healthy relationships. Or we have discussed it and we different relationship goals. Or I have issues with setting boundaries.
Damn it, you're going to be reasonable?
The issue is multifaceted, so I'll try to sum up. Your third point is well in play, but there's also the fact that we're codependent as hell, and apparently even 16 years can't erase that.