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- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
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- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
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- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
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I have large feet for my height (163cm, women's US 12) and tend to just wear men's shoes now. I have never had someone notice my feet are atypically sized, but it still feels like I'm wearing clown shoes if I wear Chucks or other canvas shoes.
You'll want to avoid pointed toes, and narrow styles, these are designed to elongate. Any kind of heel rise will shorten the length of your footprint, I personally prefer chunky heels to balance it out. I tend to wear moto style boots the most, just to throw a style name out there
There are actually more unisex styles in men's larger sizes out now than when I first started doing this (about 15 years ago). When I still wanted femme shoes I ended up buying from people who custom made drag queen shoes. It's still uncommon to find cute heels in my size in the wild.
Edit: I forgot to mention that all the style mags in the 00s (at least) were talking about elongating the leg-toe line, because psychologically it demonstrates dominance and power. (please remember the opening to The Devil Wears Prada for an example xD) So if/when you have the energy and desire for it, own it. None of the other women in your vincinity have that kind of power play ability!
Hey, in case you weren't aware, converse produces wide width shoes now so you don't have to look like you're wearing clown shoes to fit in them anymore! I was able to go down 1½ sizes thanks to them
I don't have wide feet, just long ones! But that's great info for others :)
Thanks for the detailed reply. Regarding the leg to toe line. I'm planning on displaying dominance with my ass and thighs. I recon an aggressive regiment of squats, deadlift s and cupcakes will do the trick. Also if people are staring at my ass they won't be staring at my feet.