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Sort of finally sinking in and I'm doing a bit better but this still hurts so goddamn much. I have a place to stay temporarily until I can move into my apartment. I have a bunch of stuff ordered for moving but I'm gonna have to start a fund drive over on the mutual aid comms to get through this. I need to pay for a moving truck and get a few other things so I probably won't need too much but it's gonna be one of those "anything helps" posts.
I think I'm gonna be ok in the end. This sort of thing happens to me a lot. Just not quite on this scale. I fucking loved her so goddamn much and even though we had issues, she was the first person to actually put in the work for the support I needed. We have 2 kids together and she wants to do co-parenting with is great but this hurts so fucking much. I'm gonna be alone. I don't need that much physical contact but I still need it. My depression is gonna get so much worse now.
I don't know if/when I'll try to date again but I need someone in my life, somehow. I'm 42 years old and this is the first time I'll be on my own without any sort of direct support. I don't know what the fuck to do.
And just like that I'm fucking crying again.
I have faith you're gonna be okay, too, comrade. Hope you can heal well, and that you're able to surround yourself with the kind of love you need. It'll probably feel like a roller coaster for a while as you adjust, but it'll even out as you find your footing again.