“I hate you for confusing me on what I am or am not attracted to and I find it threatening to my world. But instead of dealing with my own feelings I will try to eliminate you from my life to help me avoid this ambiguity of feelings.”

I would love to tell this dude it’s fine to find other adults attractive regardless of gender or identity, but you know his family, friends group, and church would never accept him which plays a part in him thinking this is the only way to deal with this.