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[advice needed post] i asked out a friend. I don't think they understand that this is something I did with romantic and not platonic intent. How do I make that clear? (hexbear.net)

submitted 2 months ago by EstraDoll@hexbear.net to c/chat@hexbear.net

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I asked out a friend of mine who I've been trying to ask out for a while now to grab coffee next week. They said yes but I don't think they got the more than platonic intentions I had, they seem kind of oblivious to it (or are just hiding it well). I can't flirt if my life depended on it, how can I convey my romantic intent without just... saying it outright?

idk if I'm giving enough context or detail here but feel free to ask if you need

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[–] aebletrae@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago

What do you actually want to say to them? What do you want them to say to you?

What do you want to avoid saying to them. What do you fear them saying to you?

Is your friend someone who is able/likely to pick up on subtle signalling, or do they need direct communication?

Are you trying to find the right way to tell them how you feel? Or are you trying to find a way to understand how they feel about you first?

Is this a friendship you want to keep, or would you move on from it if it can't be more than just friendship?