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[advice needed post] i asked out a friend. I don't think they understand that this is something I did with romantic and not platonic intent. How do I make that clear? (hexbear.net)

submitted 6 months ago by EstraDoll@hexbear.net to c/chat@hexbear.net

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I asked out a friend of mine who I've been trying to ask out for a while now to grab coffee next week. They said yes but I don't think they got the more than platonic intentions I had, they seem kind of oblivious to it (or are just hiding it well). I can't flirt if my life depended on it, how can I convey my romantic intent without just... saying it outright?

idk if I'm giving enough context or detail here but feel free to ask if you need

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[–] DoomBloomDialectic@hexbear.net 7 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

Want to echo that the direct approach is good if done respectfully! Expressing this stuff directly can be easier said than done ofc, it can be really really nerve wracking, especially if you're already prone to social anxiety.

"I hope it goes without saying that I'd love to continue being friends if this is one-sided or a bad idea for any reason, but...proceeds to express interest directly" worked well for me last time this came up in my own life. though it was admittedly preceded by a couple of no expectations hangouts and I kind of did wait for a moment where it "felt right." best of luck!!