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How do you get through being bullied? I'm trying to feel out my grief, and I'm sure there's many things I can incorporate. (hexbear.net)
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(Same details as my last post, but with a different question in the title because getting responses about how people get through bullying was the point. Last title is too specific.)

I'm curious to know even if your way isn't what I'm trying.

It's awful to get dehumanized when you're the most down.

I have found that my way through this will be grief instead of anger. Anger is okay, but it can be left at the point of my initial response. Grief is a way of loving, and I am trying to love myself through this hurt. I want to explore this hurt. But I'm not really sure how.

Thankfully the main person I have in mind while writing this is gone from my life, so I don't need to hold onto anger so much.

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[–] tamagotchicowboy@hexbear.net 5 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Dissociate or compartmentalize for the later if you only encounter your bully at work just consider them a feature of work and nothing else, former isn't healthy but does it feel good.

[–] HexaSnoot@hexbear.net 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

I'm safe now. So im unpacking my grief. I heard unprocessed grief can literally cause physical illness, among emotional/mental/sexual issues. I've dissociated and compartmentalized too much now.

[–] tamagotchicowboy@hexbear.net 1 points 15 hours ago

Late response; I'm sure it can, I personally have no idea what to do with the safe stage since I'm still getting bullied. Sleep and reflection maybe?